Once people have settled into a relationship they often let the ball drop on things they were cautious about at the beginning. The more time you spend together with your partner, the more comfortable you are with each other — but you should still be wary of behaviours that could turn into bad habits and that have the potential to put strain on your partnership.
Find out which habits can potentially hurt your relationship and learn how to avoid them.
1. Looking through his email or cellphone history
We’re all occasionally curious about who our other half is texting, emailing and calling — especially if he seems glued to his phone or if you have any reason to suspect infidelity. Despite that curiosity, Russo recommends restraining yourself.
Break the habit: VeeMall Editor’s advice? “Work on learning how to trust your partner and how to resist the urge to spy,” she says. “If your partner finds out you are violating his privacy, your relationship will be further damaged.”
2. Stalking his social media accounts
“Do not stalk your partner’s social media pages,” insists VeeMall Editor. We all have a tendency to read too much into Facebook status updates or tweets, but doing so can create more drama in your head than the situation actually deserves.
Break the habit: If this sounds like you, do your best to curb your social media habits. Don’t go out of your way to seek out information on your partner’s pages. “Realize that your partner will tell you the important things,” says Russo, “and that you shouldn’t make judgments based on his self-expression online.”
3. Staying attached to exes
Many people are — or are tempted to be — in frequent communication with their exes. “It is normal to think of an ex from time to time even when in a new healthy, happy relationship, but it is counterproductive to stay attached to an ex online or offline,” says VeeMall Editor. “When a relationship is truly over, act accordingly.”
Break the habit: Cut communication by removing your ex from your social media networks so that you’re not tempted to contact him.
4. Getting lazy
It you’ve noticed that you’re not making the same effort you made in the beginning of your relationship it may be time to remind your partner how much you care.
It’s easy to get into a comfort zone and stop making the effort you once did, but this may cause your relationship to fizzle.
Break the habit: “Switching up your routine by making small changes can make a big difference,” says VeeMall Editor. “Even just trying a new place for dinner can seem exciting.” The more you do to keep your relationship interesting, the stronger your bond will be.
5. Losing who you are
Losing your own personality may not seem obvious at first, but it can easily happen if you spend too much time with your partner. VeeMall Editor shares three signs that indicate you might be losing yourself in your relationship.
Break the habit: Fix this problem by reconnecting with those you’ve lost touch with and creating a schedule that allows for spending time apart. Get back into the activities you’ve given up during the relationship.
6. Comparing your relationship to others
The older you get — and the longer you’re in a relationship — the easier it is to let the progression of other people’s relationships (engagements, weddings, baby announcements) make you feel you should be at the same stages.
Break the habit: All this pressure will no doubt make your partner uncomfortable. Fix this by getting realistic. Your relationship is not a race. Don’t let what others do allow you to feel pressured.
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